So it has been a few months since I have posted anything interesting or in an attempt to be intellectual. For the most part my second job has taken up a lot of time. I currently work 9-5:30 at one job and about 6pm-12am (sometimes 2am) at my other job. My life has become the real Work, Sleep, Eat routine. On my few days off and spare hours I have spent my time with close friends and working on a few side projects. Since I have not had time to work on all of the many posts and topics going through my head, I figured I would do a quick rant post. Buckle in… we are going all over the place in this one!
On July 25th, 2015 in a historic train station in Virginia, my brother set forth on a journey with the love of his life. Sarah and my younger brother were married and I couldn’t be happier for them. I had the honor of standing by my brothers side as his best man and the whole thing went without a hitch. From what I could tell the two of them were not nervous about if the other was the one; instead they were excited and ready to be together.
My little brother, Harri, is getting married… Last night he proposed to a wonderful woman, Sarah, (she did say yes!) and I couldn’t be any happier for the two of them. He did it in front of her family on the OBX which is very simple but perfect in my opinion. My brother deserves the best and someone that really loves him even through disagreements and troubles. She is a good person and has a good family behind her, my brother chosen well and I will be proud to call her sister (-in-law). I am glad she keeps in contact with myself and my parents and includes us in plans. I personally consider that an important trait and it has helped me become closer with my brother. My family absolutely loves her and we think it is a great match and one that will last a very long time.
For the past nine years I have looked forward to a show that had a creative way to tell a love story, backwards. How I Met Your Mother may seem like another sitcom but it has a deeper sense of self to it. We followed a young Ted Mosby from his mid to late 20’s to find the woman of his dreams. With all of the ups and downs one thing was certain, he will eventually met her.
Here is my year in review as well as what I hope to accomplish in 2014. 2013 was a year of realization for me and 2014 will be the year of accomplishments.
This past week the Supreme Court had two cases in front of them involving gay marriage. Prop 8 is California’s ban on gay marriage and the other case is if the federal government recognizes gay marriage so that partners can share benefits. We have to wait till June for a ruling when the sessions is over and many people would like to see the justices have a sweeping decision. After reading a lot of the comments and questions the justices asked I believe they are trying to avoid the sweeping decision and instead focus on the cases at hand.
I am doing this for shuts and giggles because I spent all day thinking about it I figured I would write some of it down.
What would I do if I had won $250,000,000…
My eyes are closed as a sweet smell fills the room – picture pure beauty I blush – I don’t need to open my eyes – she softly rests her hand on my cheek – I can picture her just from the euphoric perfume – a goddess of beauty and gentleness – my eyes don’t need to open to see her smile – her soft golden hair surrounds me – she gently presses her lips on my forehead – I open my eyes – she is nowhere to be seen – I peer over laying on the floor – her hoodie drenched in the scent – I close my eyes begging for her to return to me – all I can do is hold what’s left.
The numb arm searching through the sheets…
Trying to find that warmth…
Trying to find that breath…
Panicking as is scours the sheets…
Nothing to grasp…
Nothing to wrap around…
Numbness subsides as reality hits…
The heart knows…
The mind knows…
The dreams do not…
Retracting the arm back to its spot…
Knowing it can not bring one to the heart•
This photo has been swarming the Internet and I am sure by now you have seen it and know what it is about. However just incase it is of a 25 year old New York City cop buying a pair of $75 boots and socks for a homeless man. Now you may be wondering why have I decided to comment of this photo and well because this is something as humans we should all be doing. We need to be looking out for our fellow man. We should not rely on government programs or charities to always be there for someone who needs an act of kindness.
One knows when he has found the woman which he can not be without. He tries to imagine a life and time without her but can not see that void filled with happiness only sadness. The only thing running through his mind and heart is her. If she is the one then he will love, and protect her through anything, he will show compassion and forgiveness, and he will us his actions to provide and cherish her. He knows she is the one when he does not flirt or list over any other woman and every tiny thing she does excites and promotes him. He will do anything for her because he loves her. He will thank god for her and pray for her to have happiness. All he will care about is her and she will be the first thing he sees when he wakes and the last thing when he sleeps. Through the good times and bad he will be a rock for her and never faultier. He will not only try and win her heart but cherish and make it shine in its fullest glory. This is what love is between a man and woman and anything else is just lust and waiting the date of divorce.
I spot you in the distance
Walking with your new man, I Aim
You are in pearl for my target is your heart,
First you, then the man you hold hands with,
Locked and loaded I grin as I know my arrow will fly true,
You glance in his eyes, release, your heart misses a beat,
You lean forward as your breath is taken away,
Your love is next, strike, you got what you deserve,
I will never regret shooting you,
For I am Cupid.
So it was Valentines Day and I didnt have a valentine again. Oh Well…. Some times things are not supposed to be. This valentines was different than all the past ones, I actually went out.
My plan was to go to DC and hit up a bar and find someone but instead things changed and for the better. I got to hang out with Iliana, an amazing young woman who is both beautiful and true to her close friends, at Hard Times Cafe in Fairfax. It has been a while since we saw each other and she is like my baby sister. So anyways we got drunk both being each others wingmen (not that she needs one she picks them up in a heart beat). I will say I had a great time with my friend and it was what I needed… not to be shown love by a stranger but love by someone who has been around for a long time.
Anyways as of now I am going to spend more time with her since she is one of a very few people that are around and she has great taste in finding matches, bars, and swag. lol
So today is my 25th birthday and here is a look back at the last 25 years and memories…
-1- baptized in Finland, started to walk at 7 months, I have a vague/not sure if it is real memory of my grandfather holding me as a large white cottage is delivered to our back yard
-2- first cross country skis…
-3- Harri was born and I wouldn’t even look at him lol
-5- started to play soccer, cracked my head open hence my bald spot
-6- learned to swim, took first trip to Florida with grandparents to the Everglades (grandmother freaked out at the python.)
-9- first kiss with Tita god she was beautiful but she moved a few years later
-10- broke my leg arm falling out of a tree at blue park
-13- I won 1st place at regionals for the science fair for a math experiment i did, could have gone to nations but ended up not going
-16- started my first job at Safeway as a courtesy clerk (bagger)
-18- worked at best buy, senior in high school, promoted to Lieutenant Colonel in Jrotc, first girlfriend Natalie, lost virginity, got my Truck (Doris still have with 278,000 miles)
-19- tired to enlist in the Army got shot down at MEPS for medical … To much acne, got a job as a corporate auditor for Safeway (god I got a great job but didn’t take is seriously wish I did.)
-20- worked at Vector Marketing for a few weeks selling Cutco knives (didn’t make any money but good knives.) got a job working at Auto Rescue doing emergency roadside service and accident response which I loved that job and stayed there for a while.
-21- got a job at Apple
-22- felony, gained and lost the best thing ever in my life I love you Sam always, decided to go to college, attended Finlandia University (yep FU) joined the soccer team
-23- rented a awesome house just a block from school
-24- hurt my leg
-25- Back in Dc working at a research firm for military lawsuits
It has been awhile since I have written something. Unfortunately not much has been going on… Working everyday, being alone, workingout, and sleeping…. Same old same old. I was hoping since I’m in dc for the summer I would be having fun with my friends and enjoying myself… Instead I have 30 days before school and still nothing. My friends are always with other friends, work or just ignoring me. One of my ex’s who I love just came back into the picture and I’m at a loss for words because of everything that has happened. I am also trying to talk to someone else but that has stalled for the moment because of my ex and distance. Screw alot of things and if anything things can only go up!
So I came across this article and figured I should post this because I know I do all 10 of these and we only need one of me on this planet so I hope everyone else can learn from this!!!
“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women—
And What To Do About It…”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…
-By David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”
MISTAKE #1: Being
Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To
“Convince Her To Like You”
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just notinterested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It’s only NATURAL when this happens…
That’s right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing
“How You Feel” Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…
MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women
Now I’m going to blow your mind…
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of the United States… and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.
I sit gently typing
to the right empty sheets
and below me an empty home
unattended to my tears
Siting at the wheel
to the right empty belt
behind me just a sack
Under the tree I sit
to the right of me a story
before me the natural twos
me and my shadow
to the right a widowed flower
beyond me you are there
for one day I will hold your hand
I am tired… Tired of thinking of you, tired of trying, tired of always being there. I have given you the chance but I see something else is there. I dont know why this happened to me but I don’t need this. I am tired of games and lies. I am tired of always being there and letting things slide. I look like a fool for trying and maybe that’s just another lesson. I don’t need to be dealing with girls. I deserve a woman. Tobad I’m tired and don’t want to bother now. Solo is sounding nice and away from you. I think about you but then I think about how one sided it is and makes me realize that I don’t want this if this is how I will be treated. I am tired and I think it’s time for me to rest and not think about it, time for me to just be ME!